Do You Have Anxiety at Holiday Time?

As a codependency coach, I find that this time of year can be very stressful and anxiety producing for many people who have sad, painful memories from childhood at Christmas time. The holidays can trigger many things for us that may be good, or bad to us. I absolutely love the holidays and have wonderful…

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What? Love Me First and Foremost For a Healthy Relationship?

I would have to say that this is probably the number one primary thing I teach clients how to do. To change your belief system of “not good enough” to learning to love themselves in a genuine, heartfelt way so that it becomes part of their belief system. I AM LOVE. Can you mess up…

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Protecting Your Energy As a Codependent

As codependents, there can be many reasons of developing the habit of giving our energy away. We may have learned it when we were young because the feelings we had were too overwhelming to feel and we were not taught how to process them. This was true for me. Or we may share too much…

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Are You A Victim Of Verbal and Emotional Abuse From An Addict?

Sad to say, but abuse is pretty common in relationships that include an addict. It can be because of their guilt and shame, unresolved childhood and family of origin issues, the effects of drugs and alcohol and many other factors, those who suffer from the verbal and emotional abuse of an addict can suffer greatly…

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Are You Always On The Defense Defending Yourself?

I love this description about defense and always debating by Byron Katie. One thing for sure that most codependents do is to defend and debate about things because of their lack of confidence in their decisions and being able to validate themselves. A familiar habit also is to try to take care of others feelings…

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Are You A Victim of Emotional and Verbal Abuse?

Are you or somebody you know exposed to verbal and emotional abuse? For most of my life I have been an advocate of stopping abuse at its roots. Many times verbal and emotional abuse is just a stepping stone to physical abuse. I had been a victim of verbal, emotional, and physical abuse from an…

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Speaking Up For Self Empowerment

Are you able to  say the right words when wanting to speak your truth to others? Or do you go over in your mind what you want to say and are afraid? Maybe you also worry about what others will “feel” or how they will “react” to what you say. Imagine speaking up, knowing confidently…

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Are Boundaries Hard For You In Relationships?

Boundaries. Many of us have a hard time setting/upholding them. Why? We believe it is “unkind” behavior. We want others to like/love us. We may be people pleasers. We think that by relaxing our boundaries, it (shows or gives) more respect to people we value. However, remember that in order to be respected back in…

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Do You Stuff Your Feelings?

  When you are upset or frustrated with someone, just be up front and honest. Holding things in never serves anyone for the better If it’s not safe to talk to the person, find a trusted friend who is a good listener and will support your feelings but give you honest feedback. Free yourself from…

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Codependency In The Work Place

I find that so many people will be working on their codependent behavior in their relationships with loved ones and friends, but don’t apply the tools and new behaviors in the work place. Most feeling that they have no power to do so at work and have to just put up with it in a…

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